ARE ALL MEN LIARS?

 ‘He is a liar, a cheat, I won’t be unfair if I call him a bastard, in fact there are no words that best describes bode, ah! In fact bode God punish you; you will ever live to regret what you have done to me, ah aah! In fact all men are the same, animals, fools, wolfs in sheep clothing, I have made up my mind, I will never ever ever! Love again’ Sonia yells as she sobs, her heart has just been smashed once again by bode.

    

   After countless heart breaks, Sonia felt she had found the man of her dream in bode, a man who she had dated for seven whole years, a man who promised her marriage, love care and attention, a man whom she believed in, a man who promised her the world, a man who to her, her life depended on. Where would she begin you might ask, how would she pick up the pieces of what’s left of her life, can she ever love again? Well surprisingly she sure can regardless of the number of disappointment she may have gone through. Although most women think this is impossible because she may have learned to hate, but believe you me she would love again.

  I am a woman and I have experienced heart break, I know how it feels. When I was heart broken, I felt lost, empty and hopeless, I felt my life had lost its meaning and there was nothing to live for, my constant prayer point was for my heavenly father to take my life and give it to someone else who needed it because I felt I didn’t need to breath any longer and when He didn’t respond, I thought of suicide, I wept day and night without food and without sleep, I suffered from constant headache because of how long I have been crying. When my friends and relatives came around me to console me, telling me how what happened was for the best and advised me to move on, I wailed the more and refused to accept it. The common statement was ‘stop crying, no man is worth your tears, especially him, forget him, God will give you someone better’ these words tore me to pieces, forget him? How? I can’t, that’s impossible, I love him, he is worth every single tear dropping from my eyes and there can never be anyone better than him, I want him and only him, I said as I continued to sob and when my mom hugged me to console me, I slumped and fainted, I woke up in the hospital two days later. You may be wondering,’ all these for what, for a man’ but you wouldn’t ask that if you have ever been truly in love. But was I ever able to love again? I will tell you about that later.

However, Most women are familiar with the saying; “all men are the same” even our dear Sonia said it during her moment of rage, as a matter of fact, most women feel wise when they say it and so they tell it very often. Most of the women that have this perception about men are those who have suffered heartbreak or maltreatment from the men they have come across or gotten involved with and this ordeal makes them believe in these words. We all have stories to back this up and most of the stories are so similar you would think they were done by the same man. I am not here to defend men but from personal experience and several research interviews I have conducted to get the personal opinion of certain people, I have uncovered that all men are actually not the same as some ladies think. Men are copious and their drives are different; those ladies that say all men are the same are merely expressing their own opinion and should not establish it as a fact. You cannot write away individual differences just because you met 10 men that you feel acted alike.

In conclusion, there are good men and there are bad men, just like there are good ladies and bad ladies-because we are all imperfect humans capable of making mistakes and not supreme beings who have no bad side. There are men who know how to love and show love and there are men who don’t. Ladies just because you keep coming across the bad ones doesn’t mean all men are bad and if you keep attracting the bad ones, you need to sit down and ask yourself why, there must be something you are doing wrong that repels the good men and attracts the bad ones, or something that turns the once upon a time good man into an animal as you now call him (just like the case of bode and Sonia, she once felt he was her all in all but after the break up, he became an animal). Maybe it’s in your character or physical traits; like the way you dress or something, just ask yourself questions and also seek the opinion of others around you. Besides even if 95% of men are bad, you shouldn’t draw on it to judge the remaining five percent by saying ‘all men are bad’. As for me, I have not found my Mr right yet but I have learned to love again and don’t fret my dear readers, when I find him, you will most certainly be the first to know (laughs). I leave you with this; for those ladies in a serious relationship, treat your man right. Sometimes ladies are actually the cause of their relationship problems due to bad character, they end up chasing their man away and then blaming him for leaving, but my dears, every man wants peace as much as every lady wants love and attention so be wise. And for those single searching ladies, look before you leap don’t just jump into the arms of any man that waves at you, be careful and be certain that the both of you are compatible and if you have 10 things that make up your ideal man and you find a man with eight out of 10, he tried, accept him don’t wait till you find a man with 10 out of 10, remember, there is no such thing as a perfect man.